Hello Beauty and Welcome on back to blog!
How the hell are you on this lovely day? I hope you’re feeling like a damn bad a$$ and ready to kick the $hit out of your day no matter what point you are in right now. I just had some some cold brew coffee that I made myself.. Therefore, I think it has already kicked in… Which is good… and will help me send you some energy for your day! YES YES YES… Let’s get pumped!
Principle 7 has arrived and it’s a big one… One that might make you get all up in your feels.. Therefore, I hope you’re ready. Now.. let’s get back to it! I am dedicating a whole episode to this one because the principle is: Honor Your Feelings Without Using Food.
GIRL! How many times have you eaten or drank your feelings away in your life? I feel like there isn’t one person on earth who hasn’t done this… I mean come on even babies in the womb send their mama’s crazy cravings while pregnant… So they are feeling some type of way in there as well… Don’t quote me on that though lol.
Today, we will dedicate this blog to getting in our feels.. YESSS… How do you guys feel about that? Hahhaha, I literally wanted to say grab some ice cream, but that would be the wrong direction to go right?
Also, before we dive in, If you missed 1 - 6.. I recommend going back to those episodes to catch up and I have linked them below.
Here we go! Emotions… Is anyone already triggered with me just saying “Emotions?”
There are times when we naturally eat when we are happy and sad, Food has a deep internal connection within us. For example, let’s take it back to childhood… If we fell off a bike and got hurt.. It was usually followed by a quick band-aid clean up with a sweet treat… When we went to the doctor and got a shot it was followed by a lollipop…
As you can see..
Whenever something hurt.. Sweets were given to comfort us and make us feel all better right?
Now let’s come back to this day in time.. When you feel bad, nervous, or something hurts?
What do you do? Read a book or grab a sweet treat? Lol Let’s be honest with that question.
Therefore, we were taught from a young age to soothe with sweets!
Food can be many things comfort, support, love, distraction and so on, but at the same time we have to acknowledge that food isn’t always going to balance out the situation. Sometimes, we simply forget to realize that emotions are good and can help guide us to making the next move in our lives … and by suppressing them with food it dims the chance to expand and grow.
A quote from the intuitive eating book says:
“ Food is love, Food is comfort, Food is reward, food is a reliable friend”.
Now it’s time to notice if we are eating to dull the pain, eating to avoid situations, or simply eating to follow hunger signals. If you’re feeling some type of way.. and your immediate thought is to run to the kitchen.
Stop and start to question if you’re hungry, if you’re avoiding something, if you’re looking for distraction, and or comfort. Here are a few ways that you may use food to cope through your day:
Comfort - If you’re feeling pushed from your comfort zone.. You might revert back to eating food that comforted you as a child. For example, moving away from home or switching careers.
Distraction - Ignoring feelings that are on your plate and soothing them with a quick slice of cake is easy YES!, but by doing so this only brings a moment of pleasure and then it’s gone.
AND Guess what your feelings come right on back.. and honestly how much food can you eat until you get sick which may bring on guilt and shame
So you might be thinking…
How do you know if you’re using food to cope with daily emotions?
If you’re continuously eating without being hungry throughout the day that can be a side of food coping. Food can be used to cope with many aspects of your life Career, Love Life, Family Life, Self Confidence, Punishment, and or School Life.. etc
As a society, I think we have been taught the method of sweeping the $hit under the rug, but truly where does that really get us. With that said, Did you know.. One of the most common reasons for emotional eating / coping is out of pure boredom and procrastination. Have you ever been there? $hit I have been there. Also, I noticed it’s easy to become a nibbler while working on big projects to pass the time. Which is truly a form of unconscious eating..
Now, let’s take a minute and ask yourself.. if you have ever food medicated for the following reasons.. Stress, love, anger, frustration, anxiety, depression, punishment and or feeling out of control.
Now if that is a simple yes, which it is definitely for me. After you food medicated did that fix the issue? I’m pretty sure that is a hard no.. Now ask yourself, after food medicating, did you ever feel shame, guilt, or even pain from eating too much?
Well $hit that is another… Yes in my book.
Have you come to the conclusion that Spreading a bowl of Ice Cream over your emotions
isn’t going to solve the problem and it’s probably make it worse in the end.
Food distraction only helps for a moment!
I think there is a better way to deal with your situation and it’s basically called adulting and working through what you are feeling or going through. Yes, easier said than done, but how many times have you worked through $hit and it just felt damn good?
So here are some Steps to connect with honoring your feelings without food.
Are you tired? - A lack of sleep truly diminishes the ability to make beneficial decisions throughout the day.
What are you feeling?
Are you going through hardships or in the moment of making a big decision?
Are you suppressing emotions?
Do you feel like you are lacking something in your life?
And when you can connect with what you are feeling or going through.. You can find ways to work it out..
I’m not saying you will never grab a piece of pie while you are feeling some type of way, but if you do that.. grab a piece of paper as well and work out what you are dealing with! I think a lot of it has to deal with hiding the hell away from ourselves and trying to fill voids…, but in all reality, we have to change the situations to fill those voids and make us feel whole.
And once again, All of this is a process and doesn’t happen overnight
Thank you for reading as always you damn gorgeous souls!
Today, I want to leave you with this simple fact… If you’re not happy… you can correct it .. I’m not saying a correction will happen overnight, but just know you have the power to change things over time.. and if you want something in life.. It’s only your responsibility to go after it… We can not dim our light due to others nor blame others.. Because when we blame others it takes the pressure away from us to live our true path… Plus it keeps us in a damn comfort zone that we need to simply kick in the a$$
As always … gotta give the credit to the gurus of intuitive eating, if you would like to dive deeper into these principles I recommend reading The book Intuitive Eating a revolutionary program that works checking out their website at intuitiveeating.org which are both linked down below.
Cheers to all of you!
- Melissa aka The Wellness Wolf